Rebuild The Romance
Can you still remember the time when you could
not wait to be together and how intense the emotional and physical contact was. You have now been
married for a few years and it just seems so different now. You still love each other but the romance is
dead. You are not alone, many couples experience this.
Watch out for the to-do
"Sure, it would be great to have weekend
getaways and dinner by candle light but we just don't have the time. Between the kids, work and house chores there
is no time left for romance."
This probably sounds familiar. People too often
expect a relationship to continue to grow like it did when they were dating. When this does not happen, you
may feel that the marriage was a mistake.
The husband or wife often feel left
out. This may be because the wife focuses a lot on the
children and the husband therefore seldom feels that his wife is affectionate towards him. Likewise , the wife
may feel that she is not appreciated because her husband never helps her to prepare dinner even though she also has
a full time job.
What they are saying is that they don't feel
special in the relationship.
It does not take an exotic holiday to make your
partner feel special. Here are some tips to make your partner feel special and to rebuild the
1. Assist with
Helping your spouse with a chore is an
expression of love and care and is especially true when you help your spouse with a chore that is not usually your
domain , like helping your wife in the kitchen.
2. Enjoy a quiet
Even if you just have 15 minutes, use it. Talk
to each other, hold hands or take a quick walk. The duration of the time you spend together is not as
important as the frequency with which you do it.
3. Plan to do something
This does not have to be a major event. You
can for instance do some shopping together. This also allows you to talk on you way there and
Having children should not kill the
Children can take up a fair amount of time
especially when they are still very young. Don't use the children as an excuse for not spending time
together. Make use of a sitter, family or even friends to look after them while you enjoy a
Taking care of the children in itself can and
should be a rewarding experience for all couples. Children are the physical manifestation of a couple's love for
each other and should further strengthen the marriage bond.
Discussing your children's needs, dreams
and problems will also allow you to spend time together and allow you to grow not only as a couple but as a
Be sensitive in the
Having sex used to be so exciting but now it
just feels like a routine. You may even wish to just get it over and done with. Sex should be the ultimate
experience between lovers but after years of marriage it can easily be reduced to a task.
Do not allow this to happen. Your first
priority should be to make your partner feel special. Sex is not just a task that has been done many times or
a process of just taking care of your bodily needs. It is about making
your partner feel loved and desired.
Start rebuilding the romance today.