Rebuild The Romance

Can you still remember the time when you could not wait to be together and how intense the emotional and physical contact was. You have now been married for a few years and it just seems so different now. You still love each other but the romance is dead. You are not alone, many couples experience this.

Watch out for the to-do list. 

"Sure, it would be great to have weekend getaways and dinner by candle light but we just don't have the time. Between the kids, work and house chores there is no time left for romance."

This probably sounds familiar. People too often expect a relationship to continue to grow like it did when they were dating. When this does not happen, you may feel that the marriage was a mistake.

The husband or wife often feel left out. This may be because the wife focuses a lot on the children and the husband therefore seldom feels that his wife is affectionate towards him. Likewise , the wife may feel that she is not appreciated because her husband never helps her to prepare dinner even though she also has a full time job.

What they are saying is that they don't feel special in the relationship.

It does not take an exotic holiday to make your partner feel special. Here are some tips to make your partner feel special and to rebuild the romance :

1. Assist with chores.

Helping your spouse with a chore is an expression of love and care and is especially true when you help your spouse with a chore that is not usually your domain , like helping your wife in the kitchen.  

2. Enjoy a quiet moment.

Even if you just have 15 minutes, use it. Talk to each other, hold hands or take a quick walk. The duration of the time you spend together is not as important as the frequency with which you do it.

3. Plan to do something together.

This does not have to be a major event. You can for instance do some shopping together. This also allows you to talk on you way there and back.

Having children should not kill the romance.

Children can take up a fair amount of time especially when they are still very young. Don't use the children as an excuse for not spending time together. Make use of a sitter, family or even friends to look after them while you enjoy a "date".

Taking care of the children in itself can and should be a rewarding experience for all couples. Children are the physical manifestation of a couple's love for each other and should further strengthen the marriage bond.

Discussing your children's needs, dreams and problems will also allow you to spend time together and allow you to grow not only as a couple but as a family.

Be sensitive in the bedroom.

Having sex used to be so exciting but now it just feels like a routine. You may even wish to just get it over and done with. Sex should be the ultimate experience between lovers but after years of marriage it can easily be reduced to a task.

Do not allow this to happen. Your first priority should be to make your partner feel special. Sex is not just a task that has been done many times or a process of just taking care of your bodily needs. It is about making your partner feel loved and desired

 Start rebuilding the romance today. 

 

 

 

 

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