Have Fun Again
After you and your spouse have reconciled, it
is time to have fun again and to rebuild your marriage.
Good and bad habits are responsible for a
withering marriage. After the honeymoon, the reality of looking after the kids, household chores and putting food
on the table takes up an enormous amount of energy and commitment. These tasks are of course a necessity but
something is missing. Where is the fun ?
That something is the time that needs to be set
aside for you and your partner to have fun and to enhance the relationship bond. You may feel that your marriage is
not very exciting or even worse, one or both of you may have become indifferent or are having an affair.
If you miss the feelings of being "in love" and are longing to be fulfilled in your marriage, you need
Daily Details - Is it hurting your
The practical details of everyday life does
require ongoing maintenance, but so does your marriage. Many couples settle for a life of boredom and routine. Some
of the excuses couples have for not spending time together include :
||There is too much to do around the house.
||Extra time is for family.
||Our schedules don't allow us to go out.
||We don't have money for
It does not matter what your excuses are, if
you don't spend time together, your marriage will inevitably suffer. Over time your marriage bond will
deteriorate until you wake up one day wondering what happened. The answer to that is - nothing -
It is difficult to believe that there was a
time in which you could not stand being apart from one another. Now it is all about looking after the kids, grocery
store specials, washing etc.
What can you do?
Step 1 : Prioritize Your
Many couples complain that they just have too
many responsibilities between home and work, to do things as a couple. You may have to work overtime to keep up
with all your work or you may have to look after sick parents. This is important but so is your marriage. You have
to commit to allow some quality time for your marriage. Do not wait for a time when your life will be less busy or
less demanding - do it now.
Step 2 : Get the Support Of Your
Once you have decided that you would like
to have fun again, you need to get your spouse involved. It may sound stupid - who does not want to have fun ?
It is necessary for you to sit down as a couple and determine how you ended up in this situation so as to not fall
into those traps again. After you have identified the areas that are taking precedence over your marriage, you
can commit to scheduling time together again as a couple.
Step 3 : Better Time
The reality is that there will always be chores
to do, but you have to set time aside to enjoy each other. If you use a calendar to keep track of
appointments, book time now for you and your spouse.
Step 4 : Be
If going out for dinner is not within your
budget, plan a themed-dinner and do the preparation and shopping together. If your schedules collide, take
advantage of whatever time you do have together and do something - lunch during work or even a quick coffee at
a shop before starting your day.
Get back the fun that you use to have.